OUR LOVE EXISTS THROUGH SPACE AND TIME

Welcome to the Wall Of Angels. This location is a site where all our lost children are remembered and loved.

I am a writer. I am currently writing about loss, grief, and hope. Every morning I look up at the black and white portrait of my Emma Grace, and take strenth, knowing her sprirt is always with me.

From this, the Angel Wall was born. The invitation extends to each and every one of you who has suffered the loss of a child to send a photo, name and date to be added to the wall.

Our babies were here, regardless of when they flew. They are our children and they deserve to be remembered.

Although I will post occasionally, the focus is the growth of Our Angel Wall as shown through a series of pictures.

As you scroll through our wall, I only ask that you take a moment to ingest each name and think of their parents. Readable names will be posted below the picture.


Thank you for your bravery.

Thank you for remembering Our Angels.

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Tuesday, February 3, 2009

WEEK SEVEN

Before I post the update for the angel wall I feel led to say something.

Our Angel Wall is growing. It is taking shape before my eyes, week by week. I often wonder if people grapple with the decision to send me their memories, their gorgeous pictures of angel children or if sharing them is easy, a way to affirm their existance and be recognized by others.
This week I offered to put one mother's lost daughter on the wall, followed by "I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby". This is the response I received. "Thank you.. yes I would.
Her name is Courtney, she didn't die as a baby. She was born on Feb 13, 1984 and died Sept 14, 2000, at age 16."

I have to admit I was stunned by my own unrecognizable bias. I just assumed her loss was a baby and I must apologize. My grief blog makes it clear that ALL losses are considered equally devestating - regardless. The opening says, "This is a place for anyone who has felt the loss of a child. Treat this as a communication haven regardless of how or when you felt your loss. My definition of loss: miscarriage at any stage, still birth regardless of week gestation, infant death at any month, and loss of a child even if your child was all grown up. For me they all hold the same root of devestation. None are more profound or more "easily" dealt with than another."

So I can see why you might have thought this wall was only for baby losses. It was my own blinders that led me to write, "I am so very sorry for the loss of your sweet baby". But I also wrote, "even if your child was all grown up." And the latter is what I meant.

To be clear - this wall is open to your losses, any and all, whether you have 5 weeks of pregnancy memories or 25 years of life memories with your child.

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And Now - The Angel Wall

Remembered Always - In Loving Memory


Addison Eva - b/d April 3rd, 2008

Siblings for Life - Regardless of space and time
Kehlie - b/d January 3rd, 1972
Patrick Zachariah - b/d December 29th, 1979
Tristan - b/d September 1st, 1984
Trinity - August 30th, 1985
Courtney - born: February 13th, 1984 - died: September 14th, 2000

3 comments:

Cindi Epona'Bri said...

Thank you for adding my babies, even my grown up baby. It means a lot to me.

Cindi

Amy said...

My heart broke as I read this. The memories we will never have are the memories which she does have. I am so sorry that her "baby" is no longer with her. The memories that she will never have tear my heart to shreds. Big hugs to Courtney's Mom.

Cindi Epona'Bri said...

Thank you, Amy. We miss Courtney more than words can say. But we miss the other four almost as much. I never had the chance to see or hold those babies and my arms still ache for that, even after 30 years.

Blessings, Cindi